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There are a couple of things a man could
find a bit difficult to do in life, like studying Rocket Science or
learning to play the piano…like Beethoven. But something far harder that
goes beyond Calculus and nimble precision is the art of dating Nigerian
girls. Why are they more complex than the average non-Nigerian girl?
What makes their brains tick (or get ticked off). What I intend to do
next is to unravel this mystery…
<<Road map to dating Nigerian Girls>>
Confirm status >>> Evaluate background >>> Measure happiness level
- Confirm status
When a man starts to date a Nigerian girl
he needs to ascertain what stage she’s at in her life – Is she just
coming out of a relationship? Is she ready for a new one? Is she sure of
what she wants in the next man in her life? Is she still keeping in
‘close’ contact with her previous boyfriend? All these are pertinent
questions which if left unanswered may raise issues in the long run.
There is also some preliminary screening you’ll need to perform in order
to be sure of what end of the spectrum your would-be Nigerian
girlfriend is on;
Changeable < < < < < > > > > > Unchangeable
Extroverted < < < < < > > > > > Introverted
Thrifty < < < < < > > > > > Materialistic
Under 30 < < < < < > > > > > Over 30
Low Self-esteem < < < < < > > > > > Hi Self-esteem
Christian < < < < < > > > > > Muslim
Church goer < < < < < > > > > > Bible basher
Dates only within tribe < < < < < > > > > > Dates outside tribe
If a Christian young man plans to date a
Muslim girl then he needs to be sure if she’s going to attend church
with him or if it’s going to be TAIF! (Thank Allah It’s Friday!). If
she’s over 30 and is a city-type of chick then she may just have passed
her ‘submissive by’ date. The average Nigerian girl is also
materialistic. Very few would stop their men from spending unnecessary
amounts of money on them except if they were concerned about saving for
the future. Some girls don’t have and want a guy who has. Some other
girls have and want a guy who has more.
‘…why give a girl your heart when she’d rather have your purse.’ – Lil Wayne
You also need to know where she’s heading
in life – Is she planning to have kids? Is she ready to relocate out of
the state or country? Is she open to being a housewife? Is she ready to
take a break from her career and spend quality time with the kids when
they’re toddlers? Does she see herself cooking for her husband or rather
employing a maid to feed him, with the occasional dining in expensive
restaurants on the maid’s days off?
- Evaluate background
If the status confirmation stage is
successful you might want to note a few things before accessing the
ATMs. The next stage could take a while depending on how open or
secretive she is or how much access you have to her FTMs (Friends That
Matter). Just how important is a Nigerian girl’s background? Very.
Tradition is for most people a source of
identity but to others it’s pretty much a curse; especially when certain
ideals become accepted by onlookers as the norm. Some Nigerian girls
from certain states have been stereotyped as being either very
domesticated or stubborn or greedy or open to use of witchcraft or prone
to not wanting to spend any of their money (just their partner’s). Some
Nigerian tribes frown at marrying outside their own tribe. Some parents
of certain tribes believe that when a man marries one of their
daughters he would be expected to take up all financial obligations of
her family e.g. school fees of her siblings, upkeep of the parents, and
occasional soft loans for relatives. Of course when it comes to dating,
with no marriage plans in the offing, then tribes tend to date other
tribes. Nigerian girls formerly based in the UK or US may or may not
want to date a man whose lived and stayed in Nigeria all his life. Some
local Nigerian girls have been known to secretly want to fund their trip
to the UK or US in order to relocate and start a new life. If that’s
your cup of tea then get those VISAs ready.
“Some girls don’t have and want a guy who has. Some other girls have and want a guy who has more.”
You need to ask what principles did she
grow up with? What is her definition of Love? Some Nigerian girls are
very homely and grown accustomed to cooking and cleaning (for instance)
in the family home. This habit tends to permeate into relationships (if
the man in question has his own apartment, of course). Some other girls
have been used to having a help to take care of all chores so they
usually don’t dare do anything close to chores in a man’s flat. It’s not
compulsory but it’s a sign of things to come. If she doesn’t ever offer
to make you something and always allows you to buy takeaways then
you’ll have yourself to blame by the time you’re both ‘happily’ married.
I’m afraid if you like the Westernized
Nigerian girls then you’re most likely in for a power tussle in almost
any form of decision-making. Such girls see themselves as your equals –
you’d probably just see them as stubborn. If you’re not ready for this
kind of drama then you’re better off with a girl whose respectful and
willing to let you play the role of man; taking charge most (if not all)
of the time. Check her attitude towards men generally and compare that
to your experience. If there is no difference then make a difference by
taking a walk.
<<Standard men Nigerian girls want>>
~The Aristo~
– Usually from a wealthy family and spares no expense
~The Aje Butter~
– Has been outside of Nigeria (UK or US) and is relatively comfortable money wise
~The Accessory~
– He’s great for showing off to her family, friends and maybe a few colleagues and that’s about it #youtwolookgreattogether
~The Maga~
– He’ll worship the ground she walks on and when asked to jump he will attempt to defy gravity until she tells him to come down.
- Measure happiness level
‘…you’re worrying about her and she’s worrying about hers’ – Lil WayneHappy dating!
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