HAVING SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME(FACTS NO ONE WILL EVER TELL YOU)

What is virginity?

A ‘virgin’ is traditionally seen as someone who
has never had sexual intercourse before. However, people have different ideas about what ‘losing
your virginity’ means. For some, it’s having heterosexual sex for the first time. For others, it can mean having any sort of sex – including gay or lesbian sex – for the first time.

Does oral / fingering / anal / hand jobs count as.losing your virginity?

This is a difficult question, and again, people have different views. Whether you think these things
‘count’ or not, don’t forget that all of them can transmit sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
And whatever you think ‘being a virgin’ means, remember that the most important thing is
making sure you’re ready before you do anything sexual, whether it’s the first time or not. There’s
nothing wrong with being a virgin, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to go further then you
are comfortable with because of peer pressure.

Won’t I look inexperienced if I admit it’s my first time?

No – be honest with your partner. There’s nothing embarrassing about telling them that you
haven’t been with anyone else. If you’re close enough to someone to be thinking about having
sex, you should be close enough to be able to talk honestly to him or her.
“We’ve sort of decided to wait a bit longer before we do it. I mean, we have kissed and felt each
other and all that sort of thing, you know, maybe just going a little bit further each time”

Won’t I be judged if I admit that I’ve had sex before?

Again, it’s usually better to have enough of a trusting relationship to chat openly about your
experiences.You deserve not to be judged. If anyone makes you feel bad for things that have happened in your life, they’re probably not good enough to give your time to. Remember that there is no definite
way of knowing if a girl is a virgin or not, a lack of bleeding is not proof (see ‘will first time sex
hurt’ below). I’m getting married and have not had sex before… In some countries, it’s common for young people to get married. Sometimes families arrange the marriage, sometimes not. You may have already
been in a relationship with your partner, or you may not know your partner very well. Whatever
the situation, talk to your partner about sex before you do it, and don’t feel like you have to rush into
it on your wedding night.

Will first time sex hurt?

First-time sex can be painful or hurt, and some girls or young women do bleed a little bit. The
bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen which breaks the first time she has sexual
intercourse. The hymen is a small piece of thin skin which goes across the opening of the vagina and
protects it when she is young. It has some gaps in it where the blood can come out when she has
her period. Sometimes a girl might already have broken her hymen without knowing about it. For
example, this can happen as a result of playing sports or horse riding.
Sex the first time shouldn’t be painful or hurt for a boy or young man, but he can make it easier
for his partner by being gentle and taking it slowly – try to make it special for you both.

Is the first time someone has sex enjoyable?

Some couples say that on their first time they both enjoyed it, other couples say that neither of
them had an orgasm. It’s an individual thing, just try not to expect too much from your first time –
like anything else, it takes a while to learn about your body and about your partner’s. Just make
sure that you’re ready and you’ve got contraception sorted out.

“What was it like? – 

Well it’s difficult to describe
because I’d never felt anything like it before really. I’d had orgasms through masturbation before, but
sharing yourself with someone you love and respect was really good. It brought us closer together. ”

Check Back Next Time For Another Episode
Am I ready for sex?
Having sex
Sex, fun and safety

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TOP MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES BY UNIQUE AUTHORS

In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact. Les Brown

1. Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse

2. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill

3. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. – Comrade Olamilekan

4. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.  –Robert Frost

5. I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightingale

6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky

7. I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan

8. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart

9. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth

10. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone

11. We must balance conspicuous consumption with conscious capitalism. –Kevin Kruse

12. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon

13. We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale

14.Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

15.Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

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16 FACTS ABOUT NIGERIAN MEN

1 – Stops you on the street and tells you he admires you and want you.
2 – Make Love to you the first day you visit him.
3 – Spend Real Money on you without thinking twice.
4 – Take you and your Mother Shopping
5 – Sleep with your best friend and maybe your sister and feels no guilt.
6 – Can break up with you at anytime.
7 – Break up with you and still have Sex with you, for maybe the next 4 years.
8 – Can go on Sex strike and refuse to sleep with you.
9 – Can make ladies come for him with his good looks, composure and smart
Dressing.
10 – Foreign women can’t resist them.
11 – Nigeria men are big down here and can fill you up, no matter how wide Nature
or child birth make you.
12 – Sex means nothing to Nigeria men; don’t use it as a weapon on him.
13 – Nigeria men were not made for one woman alone.
14 – Nigeria men don’t care about your satisfaction in Bed, he just does his thing,
but he will be the best in bed, you ever had in this life ( A PROMISE).
15 – Every other Black race hates the Nigeria man, South Africa, Ghana, Zimbabwe,
Jamaica, Angola, Togo, Benin, Senegal, Mali, Kenya, Mauritius, Gambia,
Malawi, Mozambique, St Kitts, Bermuda, Trinidad and Tobago
16 – Nigeria Men makes money anyhow and everywhere (Ask the White Man)

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WHY MOST NIGERIAN GIRLS HAVE SUGAR DADDIES

This question is as old and worn out as time itself. Yet still, nobody seems to be able to come up with a definite answer for it. Really,Why do most Nigerian students (including those from wealthy homes) either have sugar daddies OR engage in prostitution? I took time out to ask some people around me this question and here are some of their responses.

"its greed of course! Greed, laziness, peer pressure, no ambition! Mutsheeeeew!!!"LOL sounds like he has been a victim of these girls.

"Because their parents don’t give them all the cash they need"

"Money, peer pressure" hmmmm yet again

Yet another person "MONEY! Peer pressure too." I then replied "if that’s the main reason, why can’t they ask their parents, guidance e.t.c or get a decent job?" His response; "ooh! You’ll tell your parents you want bold5 today, they would drop the money. Less than two months after that, you want an iphone then later you want S3…you want to go for this show or that trip, you want to buy vuitton this Gucci that…and you expect them to give you the money every time. Naaaaa! Those girls do it for more money." *phew* that was a long speech but he really did break it down don’t you think.

Do you think that explanation justifies the act? What about their reputation? Keeping themselves for their future husbands or wives, the marriages they are ruining due to the so-called greediness? What happened to being patient and contended with what you have? The questions are endless.

If you think you know the answer to this myth of a question, I really would like to hear from you because I must say ‘I’m baffled’

 

SOURCE: ONLINE NIGERIA

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THIS IS WHY WE DO FALL IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE

Why do we sometimes fall in love with the wrong people?

I know many people may be wondering where such a question arises but I want you to know that this is nothing strange to people who never managed to keep a successful marriage/love relationship.
Such people are common everywhere but don’t look further; I happened to be a victim to this. If I have to be very candid here, I will say that most of the girls I dated in my college school days were just the wrong set of people.
This therefore pushed me to the edge to an extent in life that I began to reflect on my past relationship failures and from there, I started wondering why we do fall in love with the wrong people and from there, I decided to prop into this issue and so, came up with this article after being satisfied with what I got as a result of my 30days research on the topic.

This is Why we fall in love with the wrong people sometimes

The points listed below will act as some kind of assistance in bringing out the reasons why at times, we may fall in love with someone believing we’ve met our soul mates but later on discover that the soul mate we found was just the wrong match for us.

• Relationship dependency: Relationship dependency is when a person finds his relationship as a means of solving their financial or social issues. With this impression in mind, such people are likely to fall in love with anyone having or matching such qualifications. But for the fact that someone has what we want does not necessarily guarantee that we share emotional feelings for them, right? In my article 'Getting over your ex in few days', I explained in details how relationship dependency happens to be one of the reasons why some people find it hard or never recover after the lost of their loved once. A research was carried out by a team of researchers in California after which it was evident that, as a result of relationship dependency, many people fall in love with the wrong people (their opposites) as a result of getting what they could not afford and also as a means of escaping from unwanted situations or bad memories.
• Relationship by command: Are you aware that around the world, they are people who are today in relationships as a result of external influences and not by their desires and love for their partners? Most Africans really know about this better. For examples, in Africa, at the age of even 10, the parents already decided a lifetime partner for the child even though as ignorant as the child might be. Now, the worse of it being that, as a child, he accepts without any form of resistance and later in life starts regretting since he never married his desired partner and so, it’s evidently clear that their relationship will constantly suffer from petty breakups all the time as an effect of relationship by command. The issue of relationship by command also goes beyond teenage circles. Even at the age of adulthood when we are influenced by the society, parents, friends, and relatives to marry a certain person. When it happens, the sort of marriage is not based on genuine love desires since it originated from influential factors and not true love itself.
• Social approval: Another factor why we fall in love with the wrong people is when we tend to answer to the call of social approval. For instance, Claudine had two friends and the first got married to a certain star and the second got married to a famous business guy in town. Most of the time, they constantly keep reminding Claudine of their new life styles; they keep talking of their husbands and the big times that come alongside being with their husbands. Not too long Claudine turned down the proposal Mark had made to her. They had shared this relationship for five years, but since Claudine was now influenced by her friends she now wants a famous guy and so, she no more finds Mark interesting as before. The issue here is that, she will likely fall in love with anyone appearing to be popular or famous (scammers, thieves, drug dealers are also famous) whether he is Mr. right or wrong thereby, the issue of falling in love with the wrong person is born.
• Out of age: Also the problem of aging usual forces others to fall in love with the wrong people since they are usually left with the impression that they might end up without getting married or have a child. This issue confronts both men and women but women know this better especially towards the age of menopause as they are forced to get a child no matter what and so, all they need is just a relationship and this is no wonder why the divorce courts are usually busy as a result of falling in love with the wrong people.

Final say on why we fall in love with the wrong people

There are many reasons as to why some people find themselves in the wrong relationships but what I mentioned above is not just all but the main reasons behind this act.
In order to have more clues on this topic, see the related articles below of this. I should have compiled all the reasons/factors to make them as one great article, but if I do, the majority of readers will not be pleased to read something longer than this.

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10 THINGS YOUR WOMAN'S BODY IS TELLING YOU

The female body. It's a work of art and well deserves to be admired, while clothed or naked.

And if you peel your eyes away from her butt and breasts for a few moments, you can improve your chances with the one you're after. Just look for these 10 subtle signs to understand what she's thinking and feeling.

Pupils

If she's feeling stimulated by you (not just sexually), her pupils will dilate. That's because her body is programmed to want to see more of whatever's exciting her, so her brain tells her irises to let in more light. Bonus: As the inkiness spreads, she'll start looking better to you, too. Research shows that men rate women with larger pupils as more attractive. Time to make your move.

Eyelashes

Hold her gaze for a minute. If she's blinking more than normal (which is about 15 times a minute), there's a good chance she's on the Pill; women on birth control blink 32 percent more than those who aren't. Aside from the obvious, what does that mean for you? Put on your toughest, most confident mug as you look at her. Because of the shift in hormone levels, research says, women on the Pill are more attracted to men with rugged features, such as strong, wide jaws.

Brain
She's matching you drink for drink but she seems like her same old self. What's the deal? Men and women get different kinds of buzzes: Men lose inhibitions, while women become sedated. If you're looking to get her into the party spirit, don't feed her more alcohol. Instead, turn up the music. Research shows that mid- to fast-tempo music will make her more social.

Belly
Want to know if it's a good or bad time to broach a tricky conversation? You can tell if she's suitably relaxed by her breathing pattern. If her stomach pulls in with each inhalation, she's taking shallow breaths from her chest, which indicates stress. Keep your distance. If her abdomen and chest expand with each inhalation, she's taking deeper, more rhythmic breaths—a sign of relaxation. Go for it.

Nose

Her sense of smell is sharpest first thing in the morning, which, aside from being a good reason to brush your teeth immediately, makes it the best time to impress her with your culinary skills. That's because 90 percent of taste is really smell. Treat her to a breakfast in bed consisting of banana, which has an aroma that, according to one study, increases bloodflow to the vagina. And that may lead to a different kind of morning treat.

Chest

Sex flush, a pinkish look to the skin of her chest, occurs during foreplay. It stems from changes in blood pressure and circulation, along with pulse and respiration rates. Think of it as her coy way of telling you that if you keep doing what you're doing, you just might get lucky. Another sign that things are working: A woman's breasts grow by as much as 25 percent as things turn hot and heavy.

Small of Her Back

As she moves toward orgasm during sex, she'll begin to arch her back. Hold her tight around the small of her back at this point and stay attuned to how much she's arching. And, for God's sake, do not let up; maintain the same rhythm and intensity of stimulation until she climaxes. She'll pay you back for this later, with interest.

Fingernails

Pay attention to her fingers; among the surest signs of anxiety or depression in a woman are body-focused repetitive behaviors, such as skin picking and nail biting. If you see her doing that, don't nag her to stop; that can send her deeper into a spiral. Instead, gently pull her hand away, give it a squeeze, and hold on to it. Feel the tension ooze right out.

Hands

If it seems as if she always has cold hands, that's because she does—almost 3 degrees colder than yours, possibly more if she's stressed. Women's bodies, even more than men's, are programmed to keep their cores warmer than their extremities. So to warm her hands up, don't massage them; wrap your arm around her waist. This will warm her core and allow blood to flow back into her hands.

Between Her Legs

Okay, you know enough about your partner's menstrual cycle to know when to leave her alone. Now add this to your arsenal: Two weeks after her period begins, she will be at her horniest, guaranteed. Female sexual motivation is highest when she's ovulating. Warning: This is also when she's most likely to get pregnant.

Hope I hit the vital points?

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GREATEST ADVICE TO ALL THE SINGLE LADIES

1. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady… So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house wife category…

2. Never let the sweet talks of  MOST guys deceive you, sometimes all they just want is to have easy access between your legs and run off thereafter.

3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have.

4. Playing ‘too’ hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE (Husband).

5. Never extort things from a guy you don’t love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total ‘PAID’ STRANGERS….BE CAREFUL.

6. Never be deceived you can trap a guy through s^x. A man will also return to his wife who s^x starves him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.

7. If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don’t complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer…

8. Don’t be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with.

9. A guy always taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos), MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTER/NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn’t care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his ‘SOCIAL MATE’ and nothing else….

10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his “executive house help”.

11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.

12. Don’t always change the tv station from NTV to CHANNEL O, MTV and Fashion TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.

13. If the only places he doesn’t frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren’t welcome (only being used).

Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being emotionally abused are the ones at the receiving end… Always with open arms, requesting for something and ready to receive… The more you widen your arms, the more he widens your legs.

A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS ALREADY… ADVISE YOURSELF…

FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN… It’s better to be sitting in a taxi smiling happily than to be in your husband’s fresh air conditioned BMW x6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades alongside a Burberry scarf….

JUST REMEMBER, THAT DATING A RICH MAN DOESN’T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE… MONEY IS
NOT EVERYTHING….. MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST!

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How to know if someone is lying.

Knowing if someone is lying is neither difficult nor something which can only be learned in professional schools. Based on the help of psychology anyone can interpret the minds of others in order to source the validity of what they say.
The reason people keep lying is because they believe no one would know about it nor interpret it to others and that's one of the reasons why it's important for you to learn how to know if someone is lying.
In this article I’m going to show you some simple liars' detective methods that will help you when spotting out a liar. Below are some of the methods:

How to know if someone is lying

• Fake smiles: Liars usually tend to project some smiles if necessary but usually, you can still know if they're lying based on their weak smiles. When someone is lying his smile usually centers only with the movement of the muscles around the mouth, while other facial muscles remain constant.
• Incongruent in speech: You can still know if someone is lying based on the alignment of his speech. For example, a liar will usually omit words and modify statements when repeating something he said in the past. He does this since he can't remember clearly what was said earlier.
• Everyone is a liar: Honest people tend to believe what others say and so find no difficulty believing what people say. Liars on the other hand tend to doubt almost everything you say because they believe everyone is a liar just like themselves.
• Eye mismatch: Study proved that people look at the upper right side of the eye when recalling something they know, while looking at the upper left side denotes creating scenes. Now if you asked someone the color of his car and he starts looking upper left, it might mean that he doesn't even own a car at all!
• Ostracizing direct replies: Another way on how to know if someone is lying is by taking note to replies of questions they usually give. This is because liars will always tend to avoid answering questions the way they are. Instead of saying "I took the cake", they might say something like; "you know I don't eat sweet things."
• Anxious to switch topics: You can know if someone is lying to you because they're usually anxious to divert topics. Remaining on same subject triggers the anxiousness in them that people will soon get the truth. Going out of track assures their safety!
• Lack of self-confident: Have you ever watch a speech of a confident person? You'll discover that they don't stammer or make lot's of verbal pauses. Liars tend to portray a lot of this when in their lying mood. Even when you disagree with them they tend to be receptive and if pushed far enough, they might tend to provide nonsensical backups.

Before you spot a liar, watch out!

In order for you to know if someone is lying to you, you have to see if some of these liars' detective signs are reflected on them.
Spotting one sign isn't just enough as you'll tend to consider everyone around as liars. So the more the signs you see in them, the higher the probability.

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WHAT ATTRACTS WOMEN TO MEN

Contrary to common beliefs some men believe that there's just one way of attracting a woman while they're nowhere near the truth. I guess it's because these people neither understand the psychology of attraction neither do they know what attracts women. People who came to an accurate knowledge of women's desires for men find no difficulty in making them fall in lovewith them, and that's why it's important you know the reasons behind women's love psychology and what attracts them. But worry no more because in this article, I'm going to help open the minds of women if you never knew how it looks. Below are some of their criteria and by understanding them you stand a better chance of attractingone into your life. What attracts women to men? *.What attracts women? Resourcefulness:Research shows that women become more receptive to ambitious men or men possessing several sources of income. Since women are more likely to get most of their needs satisfied by such people, they're likely to fall in love with someone possessing this criterion. If you're a woman it might sound weird but a few know what I'm talking. It shouldn't be forgotten that not every woman become receptive to this. *.What attracts women? Criteria alignment:In some cases a woman may find a man attractive if he appears to align with one of her unmet needs. This means that if she was lagging in self-confidence and found you confident, automatically, your attractiveness and demands double in her eyes. In my book, I explained how to understand a woman's love criteria and identify her unmet needs easily. *.What attracts women? Love and comfort:Just the ability to provide comfort and love is sufficient to bond intimacy in a woman's mind. This means that if you're gifted in this area, you won't find any difficulty attractive women of this nature. If you want to see how effective this statement is, start showing some degree of these qualities to one of your class mates, colleagues or even neighbors and experience the outcome. *.What attracts women? Popularity:Another research also makes it clear that the majority of women get attracted to popular people. It's no wonder why most of the famous actors, comedians and other popular people tend to have dozens of relationships. This means that women will find you much attractive if they knew that you're popular. *.Who are running after you?It's also certain that a woman tends to become more attracted to a man if she knew that other women are scrambling over him. In my book How to make someone fall in love with you, I explained how you can appear to be wanted by other women in order to increase your attractive level in the eyes of your victim. Final say on what attracts women There are many other reasons that attract women but the above stated are based on the general societal and psychological concept of women's love criteria. But it shouldn't also be forgotten that women tend to be different in some of these criteria. For example, just by driving a luxurious BMW is sufficient enough to attract a certain woman while another get attracted just by assurance of the future while the third might get attracted just by the present of genuine loveand respect for each other.

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LOVE POEM>>YOU ARE MY EVERYTHING

When we first fell in love I thought that nothing could compare To the magical romance That you and I had come to share. But as time passed, feelings deepened, And our closeness grew The romance turned into A real and lasting love with you. You care for me in all the ways I want and need so much. I've felt your warmth and tenderness With every word and touch. I know I can depend on you For support and honesty, That patient understanding That you always give to me. There's a special kind of happiness That only love can bring, And I've found that happiness with you... You are my everything

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DESPITE HOW STRONG HER FEELINGS ARE FOR YOU

Despite how strong her feelings are for you, her pride is even stronger. She could be thinking about you all day and you still wouldn't even hear from her. She could be missing you like crazy and you still wouldn't even see her asking you to hang out. She could be wanting to see you very badly and you still wouldn't see her try to bump into you somewhere. She could be stalking your social networks and you still wouldn't see her like any of your stuff because she doesn't want you to know she's looking. She could be thinking about surprising you with a visit by going to your house or showing up at a party you're at and you still wouldn't catch her because she changed her mind halfway while doing it. She could be texting you about how she feels about you and you still wouldn't see giving away too much because she's holding herself back from expressing too much. She could just want to drop whatever bullshit is going on with you guys because she just wants you guys to be happy again and you still wouldn't see her letting it go because she won't allow herself to deal with that.

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