TOP MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES BY UNIQUE AUTHORS

In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact. Les Brown

1. Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse

2. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill

3. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. – Comrade Olamilekan

4. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.  –Robert Frost

5. I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightingale

6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky

7. I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan

8. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart

9. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth

10. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone

11. We must balance conspicuous consumption with conscious capitalism. –Kevin Kruse

12. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon

13. We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale

14.Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

15.Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

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7 SIGNS PEOPLE DISLIKE YOU

Although you may think you are making a great first impression, or if you have met with someone on numerous occasions, and are trying to appeal to them, there are a number of things you can spot in their behavior, and the way they respond to you, which will let you know they do not like you. Although many signs are quite obvious, there are also less subtle signs that people give off, if they are not really a fan of you, or do not get along with you too well. These are some signs to look out for, which you will notice when people are uncomfortable around you, or simply do not like you for one reason or the other.

1. The way they look at you 

It might be that simple. If a person always gives you the “evil eye,” or stares are you with disgust, even if you have not done anything to upset them, this is a clear sign that they do not like you much. It might not have been anything you have personally done, in some cases you are just going to butt-heads with others, and this is one of the most obvious signs they do not like you too much.

2. Always blamed 

If you are always blamed for things going wrong, this is another sign that your co workers, or people at school do not like you. If you are not part of a project, or if you are only a small part of it, yet you are being blamed for the errors in a project, and are always blamed when something goes wrong, this is a clear indicator that you are not liked by those around you.

  3. Gossip -

This is another sign that you are not liked. Whether it is at work or school, sports teams, or any other location, if you notice idle gossip each time you walk around a group of people, it is highly likely that they do not like you too much in this location either.
4. You are left out -
If you are always left out, this is an indication you are not liked. If it is a holiday party where all other employees are hired, or if there are small gatherings with co workers on the weekends or after work each day, but you never get an invite, it is a sign that your co workers are not fond of you. If it has only happened once or a few times, it might be a sign that only certain people do not like you, but if it is to every event or gathering, then it is possible you are disliked by the entire group.
5. Last man out -
If you are never picked for the team, or are the last person picked at work for a work assignment, this is another sign you are not liked. Whether it is on the playground for baseball or kickball teams, or whether it is at school where you are being chosen for group projects, or at work, where co workers are going to work together, when you are always the last person to be chosen, it is a clear sign that you are not the most favorable person in a group.
6.Things are accidentally broken -
This might occur in a work or office location. If you always have things “accidentally” broken on your desk, or around your work space, this is another clear cut sign that someone in the office is not a fan of yours. If this is the case, it is in your best interest to report it if it is an ongoing thing, or if you want to avoid further confrontation, simply don’t bring expensive items in to the work place with you each day
7. People stare -
If you always receive the strange looks or stares, for no warranted reason, you might not be liked by the person or group staring at you. Like the idle gossip, if people just stare at you with disdain or disgust, it might not have been something you did, but it may just be a personal vendetta or a clash of personalities, and is a simple way for you to spot someone who does not like you.

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16 FACTS ABOUT NIGERIAN MEN

1 – Stops you on the street and tells you he admires you and want you.
2 – Make Love to you the first day you visit him.
3 – Spend Real Money on you without thinking twice.
4 – Take you and your Mother Shopping
5 – Sleep with your best friend and maybe your sister and feels no guilt.
6 – Can break up with you at anytime.
7 – Break up with you and still have Sex with you, for maybe the next 4 years.
8 – Can go on Sex strike and refuse to sleep with you.
9 – Can make ladies come for him with his good looks, composure and smart
Dressing.
10 – Foreign women can’t resist them.
11 – Nigeria men are big down here and can fill you up, no matter how wide Nature
or child birth make you.
12 – Sex means nothing to Nigeria men; don’t use it as a weapon on him.
13 – Nigeria men were not made for one woman alone.
14 – Nigeria men don’t care about your satisfaction in Bed, he just does his thing,
but he will be the best in bed, you ever had in this life ( A PROMISE).
15 – Every other Black race hates the Nigeria man, South Africa, Ghana, Zimbabwe,
Jamaica, Angola, Togo, Benin, Senegal, Mali, Kenya, Mauritius, Gambia,
Malawi, Mozambique, St Kitts, Bermuda, Trinidad and Tobago
16 – Nigeria Men makes money anyhow and everywhere (Ask the White Man)

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PLEASE BEWARE>>>SIGNS OF A BAD FRIEND

Signs of a bad friend

There are many reasons that can cause a friend to turn bad. But when they do, it is often difficult for us to see this in them due to the high level of pretext and fake smiles they usually put on. A bad friend is one who always tries to use you because you have many possessions than he or she.
A bad friend is always jealous of you over things like car, your apartment, having lots of money, clothes, shoes etc. But when you confront them, they become angry.
They disrespect you and your belongings. When they borrow money, there never pay you back. Borrow your clothes, property, and never give it. At times, they return it damaged. They may also ask for a favor but can never return a favor. All these are signs of a bad friend.
Below are signs of a bad friend. The more of these signs you spot out, the more the probability your friend is no different.

Everything is about themselves

They always talk about themselves. Also, they could care a less about you, your day, how you're feeling. You may also notice that they brag a lot. Whether it is about themselves, materialistic possessions, boyfriend, getting married, or a vacation, they always find something to make them sound better than you do. Seems to always have an opinion about everything. Can't share you with other people.
When they do see you with other people, they're jealous because they want you all to themselves. Can't include you to see a movie with their boy or girlfriend. Spends lots of time with them, and when their other half is busy they want you all the time. Smiles in your face, but when around other people, make you feel small by continuously putting you down verbally.
They may also do things such as drugs and deny it. They might promise to call you back, but never do. Always keep you waiting. Always make excuses as to why they didn't call you.
Always come to you when they have problems, but when you need to vent or advice they're very short with you. So not fair when you don't mind spending two hours plus to cool them down; instead for you it's like five minutes. You're not a therapist. They may also stay mad at you when you two are in a fight. This is because they can only see their point of view.

They usually behave like informant

They are not really interested in you. You might notice that these people always need to know everything. For example, you may be talking to another friend about a secret and she/he wants to know what you're talking about.
They often try to overhear conversations between you and other people. They often lie. They may fraud their name, age etc. just to deceive you. Be careful from them. They may soon blackmail or bully you. They may eat up your things.
If they bully you never be shy to tell an elder. So try to dump this friend as soon as you find out that they are poisonous

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THIS IS WHY WE DO FALL IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE

Why do we sometimes fall in love with the wrong people?

I know many people may be wondering where such a question arises but I want you to know that this is nothing strange to people who never managed to keep a successful marriage/love relationship.
Such people are common everywhere but don’t look further; I happened to be a victim to this. If I have to be very candid here, I will say that most of the girls I dated in my college school days were just the wrong set of people.
This therefore pushed me to the edge to an extent in life that I began to reflect on my past relationship failures and from there, I started wondering why we do fall in love with the wrong people and from there, I decided to prop into this issue and so, came up with this article after being satisfied with what I got as a result of my 30days research on the topic.

This is Why we fall in love with the wrong people sometimes

The points listed below will act as some kind of assistance in bringing out the reasons why at times, we may fall in love with someone believing we’ve met our soul mates but later on discover that the soul mate we found was just the wrong match for us.

• Relationship dependency: Relationship dependency is when a person finds his relationship as a means of solving their financial or social issues. With this impression in mind, such people are likely to fall in love with anyone having or matching such qualifications. But for the fact that someone has what we want does not necessarily guarantee that we share emotional feelings for them, right? In my article 'Getting over your ex in few days', I explained in details how relationship dependency happens to be one of the reasons why some people find it hard or never recover after the lost of their loved once. A research was carried out by a team of researchers in California after which it was evident that, as a result of relationship dependency, many people fall in love with the wrong people (their opposites) as a result of getting what they could not afford and also as a means of escaping from unwanted situations or bad memories.
• Relationship by command: Are you aware that around the world, they are people who are today in relationships as a result of external influences and not by their desires and love for their partners? Most Africans really know about this better. For examples, in Africa, at the age of even 10, the parents already decided a lifetime partner for the child even though as ignorant as the child might be. Now, the worse of it being that, as a child, he accepts without any form of resistance and later in life starts regretting since he never married his desired partner and so, it’s evidently clear that their relationship will constantly suffer from petty breakups all the time as an effect of relationship by command. The issue of relationship by command also goes beyond teenage circles. Even at the age of adulthood when we are influenced by the society, parents, friends, and relatives to marry a certain person. When it happens, the sort of marriage is not based on genuine love desires since it originated from influential factors and not true love itself.
• Social approval: Another factor why we fall in love with the wrong people is when we tend to answer to the call of social approval. For instance, Claudine had two friends and the first got married to a certain star and the second got married to a famous business guy in town. Most of the time, they constantly keep reminding Claudine of their new life styles; they keep talking of their husbands and the big times that come alongside being with their husbands. Not too long Claudine turned down the proposal Mark had made to her. They had shared this relationship for five years, but since Claudine was now influenced by her friends she now wants a famous guy and so, she no more finds Mark interesting as before. The issue here is that, she will likely fall in love with anyone appearing to be popular or famous (scammers, thieves, drug dealers are also famous) whether he is Mr. right or wrong thereby, the issue of falling in love with the wrong person is born.
• Out of age: Also the problem of aging usual forces others to fall in love with the wrong people since they are usually left with the impression that they might end up without getting married or have a child. This issue confronts both men and women but women know this better especially towards the age of menopause as they are forced to get a child no matter what and so, all they need is just a relationship and this is no wonder why the divorce courts are usually busy as a result of falling in love with the wrong people.

Final say on why we fall in love with the wrong people

There are many reasons as to why some people find themselves in the wrong relationships but what I mentioned above is not just all but the main reasons behind this act.
In order to have more clues on this topic, see the related articles below of this. I should have compiled all the reasons/factors to make them as one great article, but if I do, the majority of readers will not be pleased to read something longer than this.

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10 THINGS YOUR WOMAN'S BODY IS TELLING YOU

The female body. It's a work of art and well deserves to be admired, while clothed or naked.

And if you peel your eyes away from her butt and breasts for a few moments, you can improve your chances with the one you're after. Just look for these 10 subtle signs to understand what she's thinking and feeling.

Pupils

If she's feeling stimulated by you (not just sexually), her pupils will dilate. That's because her body is programmed to want to see more of whatever's exciting her, so her brain tells her irises to let in more light. Bonus: As the inkiness spreads, she'll start looking better to you, too. Research shows that men rate women with larger pupils as more attractive. Time to make your move.

Eyelashes

Hold her gaze for a minute. If she's blinking more than normal (which is about 15 times a minute), there's a good chance she's on the Pill; women on birth control blink 32 percent more than those who aren't. Aside from the obvious, what does that mean for you? Put on your toughest, most confident mug as you look at her. Because of the shift in hormone levels, research says, women on the Pill are more attracted to men with rugged features, such as strong, wide jaws.

Brain
She's matching you drink for drink but she seems like her same old self. What's the deal? Men and women get different kinds of buzzes: Men lose inhibitions, while women become sedated. If you're looking to get her into the party spirit, don't feed her more alcohol. Instead, turn up the music. Research shows that mid- to fast-tempo music will make her more social.

Belly
Want to know if it's a good or bad time to broach a tricky conversation? You can tell if she's suitably relaxed by her breathing pattern. If her stomach pulls in with each inhalation, she's taking shallow breaths from her chest, which indicates stress. Keep your distance. If her abdomen and chest expand with each inhalation, she's taking deeper, more rhythmic breaths—a sign of relaxation. Go for it.

Nose

Her sense of smell is sharpest first thing in the morning, which, aside from being a good reason to brush your teeth immediately, makes it the best time to impress her with your culinary skills. That's because 90 percent of taste is really smell. Treat her to a breakfast in bed consisting of banana, which has an aroma that, according to one study, increases bloodflow to the vagina. And that may lead to a different kind of morning treat.

Chest

Sex flush, a pinkish look to the skin of her chest, occurs during foreplay. It stems from changes in blood pressure and circulation, along with pulse and respiration rates. Think of it as her coy way of telling you that if you keep doing what you're doing, you just might get lucky. Another sign that things are working: A woman's breasts grow by as much as 25 percent as things turn hot and heavy.

Small of Her Back

As she moves toward orgasm during sex, she'll begin to arch her back. Hold her tight around the small of her back at this point and stay attuned to how much she's arching. And, for God's sake, do not let up; maintain the same rhythm and intensity of stimulation until she climaxes. She'll pay you back for this later, with interest.

Fingernails

Pay attention to her fingers; among the surest signs of anxiety or depression in a woman are body-focused repetitive behaviors, such as skin picking and nail biting. If you see her doing that, don't nag her to stop; that can send her deeper into a spiral. Instead, gently pull her hand away, give it a squeeze, and hold on to it. Feel the tension ooze right out.

Hands

If it seems as if she always has cold hands, that's because she does—almost 3 degrees colder than yours, possibly more if she's stressed. Women's bodies, even more than men's, are programmed to keep their cores warmer than their extremities. So to warm her hands up, don't massage them; wrap your arm around her waist. This will warm her core and allow blood to flow back into her hands.

Between Her Legs

Okay, you know enough about your partner's menstrual cycle to know when to leave her alone. Now add this to your arsenal: Two weeks after her period begins, she will be at her horniest, guaranteed. Female sexual motivation is highest when she's ovulating. Warning: This is also when she's most likely to get pregnant.

Hope I hit the vital points?

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SUPPORT CHILDREN STOP STREET BEGGING

I have to shout out my voice for the people who have feelings for children,who have power to bring happiness to children to hear me. Children are the future of any nation and therefore regarded as a gift from God.When you see your children reading,writing,participating in competitions e.t.c,you would be very proud of them but what of the children that are begging on the street,how do you feel for them. These begging street children are totally neglected by their parents.if you ask them where they are from,the answer is they don"t know.children are commonly subjected to a miserable and suffering lives in the name of education known as almajiri system.This is quite unfortunate because the children are suffering in the following ways: *Begging for food *Begging for alms and clothes *Engaging in hard labor The almajiri system was made to give children qur"anic knowledge in a traditional islamic schooling system known as the SANGAYA.Before, almajiri is known as a student who is seeking for islamic knowledge,but today almajiri is only a child who begs on the street.The worst part is that they are vulnerable to all sources of diseases. Children need special safeguards and care for they are emotionally,mentally,and physically immature.They are the leaders of tomorrow.The government of Nigeria is trying to see that all these problems of children is solved. Lastly i am calling on the children,youths,community leaders,NGO"s,etc to support the government in providing lasting solution to these problems because it requires the energy of every one.

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OVERCOMING FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKE

I recently discovered that many people are afraid of making mistakes in public or among strangers than of dead. It's this concept that soon gives birth to self-pity and a decrease in self-esteem. This fact is sufficient enough as to why many people repress their thoughts, fear public speaking, and sometimes even choose to sit at the back in order to avoid going noticed. I happen to be an extrovert guy but this wasn’t the way I was during teenage years. In fact I never liked the idea of meeting people for the very first time or say what I wasn’t sure. I constantly live with the fear of blundering among people. I guess this was because I highly believed in the theory of perfection. But today, my thoughts have drifted to something different. When I began going into personal development I realized that making mistakes is one of the factors that reflects our true skills. In some instances, it lets us know what we’re capable of and our limit as well. How to overcome fear of making mistakes A friend invited me today to his parents’ 50-year marriage anniversary. At first I never wanted to honor the invitation because the scene was going to take place in his church and I was still unfamiliar with the rituals. Once again I almost put up my childhood lens and began seeing things the way fear-crushing people would but finally went after all. Although I end up blundering in one or two ways and left before time, but the moralities I sort of gain was just way too far from the odds. I soon came to realized that among the best ways to overcome fear of making mistakes is to get involved in it and see what you’re capable of. Making mistakes shouldn’t be what we ought to shrink from. I’m not against making even the most hideous mistakes in life, in fact I welcome them as part of my routines. I know you may be wondering but that’s just how humans learn, from past mistakes. So if you're afraid of making mistakes, you'll certainly end up fearing to learn what you don't know. When I was about to launch this site most of the comments I got weren’t supportive. People especially friends and a couple of those who rarely know me said and explained some hideous things. But that was just their own version of it. Their thoughts only let me know they're fear-based humans, afraid to trust their abilities. The fear of making mistakes sometimes also surges from influential factors and a resent research found it true. Many times, the people surrounding us highly contribute to code this fear-based belief in us. To a greater extent, if you’re afraid of making mistakes, then it’s time you start considering the people around you. Be selective in this realm and associate best with people in congruent of your niche and discard minions. Facing your fears Among the best ways on how to overcome fear of making mistakes is by facing it. If you’re afraid of asking a girl out on a date, you’re just cluttering many things. Rather, why not walk up straight to her and express your true feelings?. Even if you make some hideous mistakes, at least that would serve as correction and let you know the areas needed to be touched in you thereby doubling your chances the next time. Since childhood I always like experimenting in various areas of life and have become efficient at that. Whenever I come across stumbling blogs, I strive to interact the more in order to examine my abilities. In most cases, the end result is that something good usually pops. Buda once said “All fear is caused by a failure to understand our true nature” and he was correct. In this case mistake is just a player that reflects our weaknesses. So I encourage you not to repress your fear of making mistakes but to use them as stepping stones towards the learning process.

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HOW TO STOP REGRETTING THE PAST

How to stop regretting the past

Have you ever wondered why each new day you feel bad? Do you know why you kept regretting the past? This is a common aspect of human nature. When we failed to meet up with certain task in life we tend face them in future in the form of bad feelings and regret of the past.
Overcoming regret is not that difficult, as many people would try to define it. It’s not all about trying to forget yourself or indulging in abnormal activities.
I have seen many situations where a person tries to stop regretting by forgetting himself through alcohol. The problem with such method is how many bottles would you drink? How long would it last? You will realized that the moment the alcohol wipes off, there lies the original problem and this time a big one.

Why do people regret the past?

There are many things that can cause a person to regret the past when he reached a certain age. Depending on how the past weaknesses were, he tends to face the same degree in his present life. The only difference is that it appears in a different form.
For instance, if a person believes in God in the past and up till now he is still living in sin, the tendency that he will continue to feel bad is guaranteed and that is how we came about regretting the past.
Any form of bad mode we get or regret is as a result of something we done in the past, which could not have been done. Depression unlike regret is just a sign that we have made an error in the past.

 

How to stop regretting the past

Identify what your problem is. You cannot stop regretting the past without first identifying what your problem is or where your regret is coming from. So the first thing to do is to know what presently makes you regret of something in the past.
You can do this by reflecting way back what you done in the past that affected your present life. For example, are you in a state because of something you did in the past?
It could be failure in relationship, academy failure, lost of money etc. Whatever you managed to identify that is the problem. Once you have known the cause of your regret, the next aspect will be on how to solve them and this will require more effort and courage. Almost all problem of the past can only be solved in the present.

How to solve the past worries

When you are done with the first and second step, the next aspect will be on how to solve the problem and this is nothing more than making some corrections in your present life in order to influence the past failures.
For example, if you noticed that your regret is coming as a result of breaking up with your partner, then finding a potential partner will make you forget about the past. If you were sacked, then get another job. If you failed an exam, study hard for the next. If you lost a huge sum of money then becoming rich will hinder you from regretting your past. Anytime you think of it, you will see it as a blessing, right?
When I first started my first business as a wholesaler, I lost everything I had in my first two years. The following couple of months I started suffering because of my past. My friends and business associates made jokes at me and this worried me.
I decided that I am going to stop all this. I decided I was going to change the past so I chose to start a new business and began this website. Within few months after launching it, the site starts making a decent amount of monthly income. Whenever I think of the past I only smile. I changed my past by adjusting the present.

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HOW PEOPLE AFFECT OUR DEAR LIVES

How people affect our lives

Have you ever noticed that the people we interact and deal with influence our lives one way or the other? I know many people maybe be quite surprise to hear this but I see no other way to put it other than this.
In this article, I am going to explain some of the ways in which the people we live with, interact with and socialise with affect our lives and in this regard, it could either be in a negative or positive way.
This is a very big topic and I can’t assure you that am going to explain both the negative and positive signs to you. For this reason, I am going to focus only on how people affect our lives negatively, right?

How people affect our lives negatively

Do you know that when we believe or trust someone, anything the person says goes directly and stores in our minds without the subconscious mind filtering it? I know this may be impossible to believe but it’s the truth.
For example, when a child is still young, he sees no other person trust worthy other than his mother. The only one very close to the child is his mother and so he completely trusts and relies on his mother for almost everything. He therefore complies with anything the mother says. Whatever way the mother disciplines or educates the child will either affect the child negatively or positively.
At this moment, the child’s life solely depends on external factors such as the mother’s attitudes towards him, right? And the same thing happens in other fields of life.

Our social interaction plays a part

Another aspect in which people affect our lives negatively is the people we make friends with. Although in many cases, friends have always been some kind of support in our lives which affect us in that regard, still, some of them have exploited us in various forms. It’s true that some of the characters and traits we now have today is as a result of friends or the people around us, right?
For example, I got a mail from this site yesterday morning from a lady whom as a result of maintaining her relationship with her boyfriend started going to parties and clubs. She loved her boyfriend but the problem was that she was afraid to lose him.
So, in order for her to do this, she had to always follow him to clubs and parties. Although I managed to solve her problem but her interested of writing was focused on how to maintain this relationship without having to go far. And this is also one of the ways in which people affect our lives either positively or negatively.

How people project their feelings on to us

In most cases, this has to do when we admire and try to copy someone’s attitude, life style, talking or walking habit etc. As you can see, people influence our lives in various ways.
Although some of them intentionally do it (like when trying to correct someone), still, at some times, we are the ones who copied it and later on, it affects our behaviour and life style. And this is one of the various ways in which people affect our lives either negatively or positively.

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WHY PEOPLE BECOME BORING

Why am I a boring person?

I know that at times in life we caught ourselves in certain mood which we really do not want. Sometimes we feel better about ourselves and sometimes we just wish to be alone but do you really know what causes this mood swings?
Unlike any other bad feelings about ourselves, do you know that being boring is also a formed habit? If you agree with me then you will also come to understand that before someone becomes a boring person, something must have ignited it that caused the habit.
In this article, I am going to explain to you some of the things which make people become boring and how you can use this to your advantage to become an interesting person.

Why people become boring

But before I tell you how to become interesting among your mates or strangers, I will first let you know why people become boring on to others.

• You believe you are boring: A research was carried out after which it proved that people become boring when they believe that they are boring. I agree with that in the sense that most of them know this about themselves and instead of working this, they look but for ways to proof this to their selves.
• You don’t talk: Another way which could make someone become a boring person is when he/she decides to always stay quit among others. This attitude makes people stay off you and when they do that, your subconscious mind tends to show you this as a proof that you are nothing but someone boring and that’s how the question (why am I a boring person?) is born.
• You are shy: Another cause behind this habit is the act of shyness. This is because when you are shy, you tend to keep all your ideas and opinion only to yourself since there is no way to express yourself. This habit makes people consider you as being boring since you don’t speak nor say anything contributively.

How to become an interesting person

Becoming an interesting person is no magical science or something which cannot be learnt or thought. Becoming interesting is nothing more than spotting out your flaws and tackle each of them. This is because, behind this habit or isolation, there must be something which makes you different. Now, what is that thing? How are others behaving and how about you?
When you discover what is contrasting you people, start by solving them. For example, if you discover that what they usually talk on is unfamiliar to you, then you can break the spell by acquiring enough knowledge on the topic else, you will always be isolated. And same process applies to whatever you spot out.

Learn to interact with them

In order to interact with them, you must improve your self-confidence and this is nothing more than trying to always talk among them. You do not necessarily need to know much before you can talk, right?
If you have less knowledge of the topic, you can still be making serious comments. You can start by just confirming something they said, but on the other hand you will have to mind what you are confirming not to confirm just everything.

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TOP REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD STOP GOSSIPING

Why gossip is bad

I know there are many reasons behind the act of gossiping which some people develop. I equally believed they do so in order to achieve a certain degree of satisfaction, but what I am not really certain is whether they have once in their lives thought of the consequences behind the act of gossiping. That is where the problem lies.
While am still doubting and carrying out more research behind this topic (the purpose of gossiping), still the manner in which some people do it with ease makes me to at times wonder if they are really conscious of the affects.
I believed one of the main reasons which hinders people from quitting this habit of gossiping is probably with the fact that, they never look at the dark side of it or that the consequences are not usually felt at the moment but later when they must have already through with their intentions.

Why gossip is not good

Even though some people managed to achieve their desires and gained satisfaction through the habit of gossiping, but does this guarantee their intentions for ever? This is because at times, I see people gossiping about others in their absence when in return are their friends. I recently saw a situation where because of gossip, a boy and a girl were forced to broke up their relationship just to later found out the rumours about his girl being cheated on him were all lies.
At that moment, it was very difficult to have doubted the gossiper since he was a trusted friend but the man finally realised the real fact about his lover 2years after their separation. He tried to plead with her that it was external forces (gossiper), but it was already late because at this time, she had already gotten married to someone else. The man was so frustrated to the point that he now attacked but his friend (the gossiper) and threatened him with death penalty.
As you can see why gossip is not good, the friend had to escape leaving his family behind just to guarantee his life. You see what mere gossip can do? Just because of gossip, the guy missed his chance of marrying his choice and his friend had to begin a new life somewhere and that’s why gossip is not good. It brings about disasters, creating problems everywhere. 

 

 

 

 

 

Gossip destroys your inner-self

Prior to the example mentioned above, the disadvantages of gossiping are just too much. When someone starts gossiping, it makes him less than a Mr nobody thereby leaving him with a habit of always gossiping. Have you noticed that each time someone gossips, you tend to feel uneasy with himself?
When you say something about a person which your subconscious mind believes is not true, it makes you develop the feeling of guilt each time you see that person. Whenever you see him, the first thing that comes into your mind is whether he has heard about your lies thereby making you live all the time with guilt.

Gossiping destroys your self-esteem

Another reason why gossiping is not good is because it destroys your ability to know that you can actually do something on your own. I hope you have also notice that people who gossip always retaliate in most cases with gossip.
This is because, when someone develops that habit of gossiping, he always look for short means to solve his problem in the form of gossip since his self-confidence and self-esteem have been destroyed by the habit of gossiping.
All these therefore imply that gossiping in not good in any form since if it does not destroy you physically person, it destroys the inner person. If everyone realises this, there will be no need for gossiping.

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